February 19, 2010
I was having this conversation with a friend:
Friend: I'm coming out and telling people now that I'm going to do a fellowship.
[A fellowship is at least one more year of training AFTER residency. For those of you keeping count, that's about 25yrs of education.]
Me: Oh, good for you if that's what you want to do.
Friend: How about you?
Me: I feel like I have to choose between doing fellowship and having another child. These eggs aren't getting any younger.
Friend: Yeah, you're right. That's the reality of the situation. If you're going to do fellowship, that's gotta be your main focus for that year or two.
Me: Didn't you want to have another one?
Friend: Yes, I'm going to try and crank one out while I'm still in residency.
Me: Good luck with that, too.
Does it bother anyone how unnatural this child planning business is for female doctors? What about this idea of being 'in school' forever?